Varric Tethras is such a crazy and fun character cause it’s like. Imagine getting recruited into a special Catholic Church paramilitary demon fighting, apocalypse-stopping task force and celebrated novelist Neil Gaiman with a crossbow is there as part of your squad.
I keep seeing barbie blorbo memes saying “this ken is a mass murderer” “this ken does drugs” “this ken is so special” like no you don’t understand. Gender is irrelevant. If your blorbo is special and unique your blorbo by definition is a barbie, not a ken.
maybe the purpose of life is to fill it with as many positive things as you can. regardless of how bad life gets, don’t let it steal your personality, your hobbies, your style. after coming home from a bad day at work maybe you need to sit down and read a nice book. after studying non-stop for so long, maybe you should finish that crochet project you’ve been putting off because you’re so busy. maybe we should prioritize the things we love, the things that make us happy, and not just the things we’re forced to do to survive. in this society, a little peace from the outside world is important. don’t give up on the things that make you happy. don’t forget about yourself.
But, it’s okay to grieve the time you spent surviving. The time spent trying to figure out what was wrong. The time spent healing to become a person again.
One of the things I actually really like about Dragon Age is that not all the companions/romances are young, spunky 20 year olds who never age. A lot of them are older and it’s nice. Anders didn’t join the grey wardens until he was about 30 (give or take a few years) and he can’t be romanced until act 2 when he’s 34. Nathaniel doesn’t become a warden until he’s 30-31 either. Cassandra is 36-37 and Varric is 40 in inquisition. Cullen has most of his younger years stolen by trauma, unhealthy coping mechanisms, and things that he’ll regret later; it isn’t until he’s 30 that he starts making real progress to redeem and improve himself.
Being younger right now really sucks because a lot of the time it feels like your losing your youth and the best years of your life. So it’s nice to think that those best years will happen later. It’s NICE to see people without any close friends finding their found family in their 30s and 40s. It’s NICE to see people become accomplished and discover their talents and passions later in life. It’s NICE to see older characters have just as much development as younger ones.
you’re allowed to be upset and hurt and angry. you’re allowed to know you deserved better. you’re allowed to mourn what you could have had. part of healing is allowing yourself to feel those “negative” emotions and accepting them.
